Birthdays, holidays and anniversaries

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Dates that used to belong to you both can hit harder than ordinary days. That is normal. What helps is a plan made in advance.

Look at the calendar for the next three months and mark the dates that could sting. For each, plan one thing that is kind to you: a friend, a trip, a long walk, a favorite meal, a quiet day. Do not leave the day empty.

Expect the urge to reach out and prepare for it. Put a note on your phone with your reasons. Tell a friend about the date. If it hurts anyway, you are not failing. You are having a hard day, and you will get through it.